Some of you may be wondering why I get approached and complimented by so many women. And I know what you’re thinking, that it’s my looks or because I‘m black. That’s only partially true. I’d say that I’m only an 8 in the looks department, not enough to constantly get approached and my ego stroked by women that I don’t know. Not even men that are more physically attractive than I am get approached as much as I do. Why not? Because there is a system. Although physical attraction is a part of the reason, it's not the entirety of it.

A lot of it has to do with the fact that I stand out in a good way. For instance, I dress better than just about every guy I come across. Combine that with my height, and this causes women to immediately notice me when I walk into a bar. And then you add this onto the fact that I’m not your typical black guy. I don’t really dress like a black guy (I wear skinny jeans and casual/dress shoes instead of baggy clothes and sneakers), and you don’t really see black guys with any kind of facial piercing.

Next, I make myself available. At some point, I realized that women are intimidated by men with groups of people, so I spend a lot of my time standing either alone, or with one other guy. Even when I’m with a group of people, I don‘t stand or sit with the general conglomerate because it takes away from the boldness women might otherwise have if they saw me standing alone.

When women see me standing alone, they’re like “OK, I have no excuse not to approach this guy now.”. Other men make themselves inapproachable because they always feel the need to be standing with a group of people. And no woman wants to approach a guy that’s with a group of people. And finally, I just chill out. For instance, you won’t see me doing anything weird or approaching many women, if at all. I know that if a girl finds me attractive, she’s going to be watching my every move to see if I’m a guy that she can actually see herself with.

As long as I don’t do anything weird, or set off “player” alarms by gaming every girl I see, she’s either going to approach me, or make sure that I notice that she’s interested in me. There are a few other things I do, but as you can see, there is a general strategy behind getting women to approach me.